One of my beloved sisters has cancer.  She received the diagnosis today.  The cancer is in several places and a couple of her lymph nodes are swollen.  The doctor believed the cancer had spread to them.  There may also be cancer in her liver.  

I felt like i knew what the diagnosis would be but still, finding out it is true leaves me feeling breathless.  Off kilter.  

How do you process this?

How can I help her?

She goes back to the doctor next week for more tests. If there is cancer in her liver, the doctor isn’t going to do surgery; he then plans to keep her comfortable for however long she has left.

I can’t believe I’m writing these words.  

About Henrietta Handy

I have returned home to the mountains. No more am I "a mountain-girl far from home." Diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at 2 1/2, I understand pain, fatigue, laughter, joy, and love all while on crutches and in wheelchairs. This blog is just about me, mostly the writing side, but there are forays into so many different topics. I am married to a wonderful husband who puts up with my writing, knitting, yarn, with the love of a saint. We have fur babies, and one cat who rules us all.
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2 Responses to Stunned

  1. Brian Bixby says:

    A ‘like’ is obviously inappropriate. I can’t offer advice, just offer my own example, to let you know there are people who are out there who understand.

    In 2010, I was going to finally receive my Ph.D. in a ceremony. The day before, my partner told me she had been diagnosed with cancer. It ate at her. She felt her life was destroyed. All I could do was comfort her, encourage her, and love her. Eventually, she drew strength, from me, from herself. She did beat it, and is alive today.

    In contrast, in 2017, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. Already metastasized. Terminal. Our relationship was not as good. I worked harder at helping her, and still did a poorer job.

    Love your sister. And support her caregivers. Okay, I’m giving advice, despite what I said. But I’ll leave it to your to figure out what that means in your life, and hers.


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