Today’s “Movie Monday” isn’t really about a movie, per se: It is about the 20/20 Interview With Bruce Jenner. I grew up with Bruce Jenner being the all-American and the American Olympic Hero. I watched the 1976 Olympic games. I watched this handsome, masculine athlete succeed where others were falling, literally. I saw him receive the Olympic Gold Medal for the Decathlon and wondered, Why does he look so unhappy?
I bought and ate Wheaties, even though I didn’t like them, because he was on the box.
Unlike most of America, I haven’t seen one episode of The Kardashians. I didn’t know Bruce Jenner was married to Kim Kardashian-West’s mother until just a couple of years ago because the show, to me, was about people being famous for simply living their lives on television. To me, the Kardashians shouldn’t be called “famous” or “entertainers” in any sense of the word because none of them do anything in the realm of entertainment. Why should we care about them other than to see them as fellow human beings? I guess, actually, they are a living soap opera the younger generation, and a few of my generation, have fallen in love with. I don’t understand it.
In the middle of all the Kardashian mess is Bruce Jenner – the athlete, the hero, the Olympian. Having not seen any episodes of the show, the clips shown during the interview surprised me. Kris Jenner was really that rude and disgustingly condescending to her husband? Did no one see this in the family or in America? Really people – the actions seen in the clips could be considered mental spousal abuse! On top of this, Bruce Jenner was going through major gender identity issues?! It is a wonder the man kept from committing suicide.
The tabloids haven’t helped. They have openly made fun of the man, the Olympic hero, because they could not, would not respect the man in any avenue. It almost seemed as if they were picking up from where Bruce Jenner’s wife left off in making fun of him and added in hounding for some sort of an answer to questions thrown at him while he was driving away in the car or picking up coffee.
After watching the 20/20 interview with Diane Sawyer, I sat quietly and thought about the answers he gave to the questions she asked. I did some research, too, into gender identification and what being transgendered was supposed to mean in today’s language and society. A couple of things jumped out at me from the interview and what little research I did right after the interview.
1) The transgender associate themselves with the opposite sex than the one they’ve been assigned. I read this in several different places and the word “assigned” kept throwing me. On one site, in one video, this cute female was saying the assignation came from what the doctors and nurses said at birth you were. Really? I know this topic is confusing, but lets not add to the confusion by making it more complicated.
In this world, the one we all currently live in, we are born either male, female, or sometimes hermaphrodite – 1 (Biology) an individual animal or flower that has both male and female reproductive organs; 2 a person having both male and female sexual characteristics and genital tissues; 3 a person or thing in which two opposite forces or qualities are combined (per Revers http://www.reverso.net/more.aspx?lang=EN). No one “assigns” what you are except God and nature.
2) There is a lot of confusion about whether or not being transgendered meant you were homosexual. Being transgender does not automatically make a person gay. The sexual orientation of the transgender person usually remains the same as before they transition to their proper gender.
3) Being or becoming transgender doesn’t happen overnight. This is something the person struggles with their entire life from childhood forward or until they transition.
The truth about all of this, I realize, for me, is very simple: Bruce Jenner, to me, is an Olympic hero. He is a human being. He doesn’t feel at home in his skin – his words – and he feels tired of living a lie. The man has made a decision about his life. His life and his decision to transition to a woman is not affecting me directly in any way other than I watched his interview and felt sorry for him. I wish him luck in his life and hope he finds happiness and peace.
Why did it take so long for me to get to the above point? Because I’ve read about two different Bruce Jenner camps: One camp is encouraging him to go forward and become the woman he maybe should’ve been; the other camp is the judgmental one declaring and proclaiming he is going to Hell for what he is doing. I am not God. I am a Christian. I am not going to judge the man – God will judge him and us all when we die, and in The End. I am just trying to live my life the best I can. This is a full-time job for me. At the end of the day, the Kardashians don’t matter, Bruce Jenner doesn’t matter – all that matters is my day in the Light and the day of my husband in the Light. Put this whole thing into perspective, people. Let the man be.